searching spouse,
seeking job,
rising children,
...
all bear the similarity.

for example:
seeking for a job,
people always tell you: go look for something you like
and go get something making you rich, such and such,
that is nonsense indeed! who doesn't know these!

The real world is completely different:

all depend on the market and where you are in the current market. 82-28

Middle-age-people pretending like a innocent middle school boys or girls always fail no exception.